Seeing the person through the trees


Occasionally, a friend lets you know that outside perceptions of you may be a bit different than you think. This happened to me today and I’d like to share it with you.

In the coming week, I’m holding a class on a different approach to life, business, and networking. In it, I am going to teach a concept I completely believe in: Heart Leadership. What is Heart Leadership, you ask? It’s the idea that life is best lived through exercising your natural ability to discern: A gift most of us rarely use. Obviously, there’s more than that, but heck, I’m not going to give the class away here.

That said, I have spent a life doing so many different things. When you grow up an artist, finding a “normal” job is a rare thing. We just don’t fit in to the traditional mold, in a traditional workplace. As an example, I have been everything from a real estate agent to a fisherman in Alaska. I have seen many towns, continents, and amusement parks. I’ve been around. For years, I thought this was a good thing, and indeed it is, at least in that it offers life experiences that add so many skills.

There is one significant problem, though. The rest of the world sees you as a Renaissance man, which would be great if you lived during the Renaissance. However, we don’t. I don’t. We are here, right now, and I have typically been seen as a jack of all trades. I would like to think I’m a master of a few, but still, it’s obvious this is how I’m perceived and it’s fair.

Recently, I was talking to a friend of the past decade, and when I originally called him, his first comment after the kind hello was “so, what are you doing now?” I have to admit I laughed and then was slightly heartbroken. This is how the world has seen me, and it’s awful.

Nobody really knows what I think, what my heart feels, how much I love, and what I favor. They see me as distracted at best and insincere at worst. Either way, they’re wrong, but there’s nothing I can do about it. Even the best of friends bring perception to the table, and how they see me is how I am to them. Again, they’re wrong.

How do I fix this? How do we fix this? Start over? Move to another country? I tried that. I doesn’t work. In fact, it may make things worse, because when you inevitably return, you look like a dog returning to its vomit. A fool. So, here I am today, sharing my thoughts and trying very hard to not shout at the top of my lungs and say something I’ll have to delete in a few hours when my frustrations wear off.

Announcement: I am not in the finance business. I am not in the music business. I am not in the insurance business. I am not in the piano business. I am not in the real estate business. I am a Heart Leader. It’s what I am. It’s what I teach. It’s worth a lot, and I believe in it with every fiber of my being. I hope you’ll give me a chance to earn your trust, your love and your friendship.

Thank you for reading today and blessings always.